It surprised me somewhat that most of the people I know are unhappy in their jobs. The reasons for that - and how to deal with them- are for another post.
My own experience was similar. I had a string of jobs I hated and I always left. Often without a plan B. That worked for me but may not be for everybody.
There are two common reasons for not leaving a job that saps you of energy and happiness:
The reason you feel stuck is because you never get out of this loop of being scared of not having money and not knowing what to do. You never really stop to break down the thinking process and check where there might be faults in your reasoning. Where there might be windows of opportunity that could let the light in and actually change your life.
So what can you do?
1. Money
Do you even know how much money you really need on a monthly basis? I was always surprised by how little that actually is when I needed to tighten the purse strings temporarily.
If you have a partner or family, have you talked to them about this?
Is it really true that you can’t be without a salary temporarily, if you really have to (and you might not have to!)
Could you plan for it? I saved a great deal of my salary in the months before starting my business, because I didn’t want to stop pursuing my entrepreneurial dream just because of a scarcity mindset.
What other money options do you have? If you really wanted to quit your job and planned for it, how else might you create money in the meantime?
As always, guide your thinking by asking yourself: assuming success, how could I address the money worries so I can quit my job?
2. Not knowing what to do
You won’t like what I'll say about this one. My assertion is that you know what you want to do, but you have judgments about it. It sounds like “I can’t make money baking or looking after dogs”.
"I can’t start my own business because I don’t have any ideas and anyway, mothers of three don’t have time for this."
There are SOOOOO many assumptions and so much faulty logic there, I don't even know where to start. Do you really not have any ideas? Or have you decided against them already? Do you know of ANY mothers of three who have a business? Even if you don't know them yourself, do you know they exist?
Whatever someone else did is also possible for you.
And even if you truly, really, honestly think you don’t know what you want to do, you can always get someone to help you figure it out. There are solutions. What’s missing is your willingness to confront your fears and comforts and go get something that really makes you happy.
Everything you tell yourself is a lie. You can have enough money and you can figure out what you want to do and go do it.
All you need is the willingness to get help, get scared and get happy. The willingness not to listen to everything your brain tells you, which is lies.
If you’ve had enough of being in crappy jobs and you feel ready to start, get in touch with me. I can help.
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